Have you ever wondered why some people seem to find it easier to get through life than others?
And what I found is that those who have optimistic view on their Life seems to be more healthier and more happier and more successful than others.
So I learned as much as possible about Optimism and this post is the summary of my notes on Optimism.
Whenever we experience a negative event in our lives, we always explain it to ourselves in one of two ways: optimistically or pessimistically.
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To find out whether you’re a optimist or pessimist, go through the following infographic.
Here’s the key difference between Optimists and Pessimists.
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So are you a pessimist or optimist?
Luckily, the ways in which optimists and pessimists make sense of bad events are not set in stone: all the behavioural patterns mentioned in the infographic can be changed.
We become either pessimists, believing we have no control over our fate, or optimists, feeling a sense of control over our destinies depending on our life experiences.
Our thinking habits also are learned, mostly during childhood and mainly from parents and teachers.
Even if you’ve acquired a pessimistic style, you’re not condemned to use it forever.
“How can you change from a pessimist into an optimist?”
Here’s a technique developed by the psychologist Albert Ellis. It’s called ABC Technique.
Adversity can describe any challenging event: an argument with your partner or forgetting to buy groceries on your way home from work.
Belief concerns how you interpret such situations. Here it is important to distinguish thoughts from feelings (as feelings are consequences). For example, a belief can be: I’m incompetent, I did a good job, My memory is terrible.
Consequences – what you did as a result of Adversity and Belief and how you felt. For example, did you cry? Did you shout and get mad? Were you embarrassed?
ADVERSITY: A love interest doesn’t return your phone calls or texts.
BELIEF: He or she doesn’t like me. I’m ugly. I’m not worthy enough.
CONSEQUENCE: You feel depressed all day.
But it’s not always easy to recognize these ABCs in your own life, as most of our self-talk is unconscious.
Nevertheless, you should try to listen to your self talk and find at least five ABCs, so you can observe their negative effect on your life.
Once you have found a few ABCs in your life, you are in a position to change them. It’s crucial to realize at this point that the beliefs you’ve recorded will largely determine the consequences.
So question and analyze your beliefs.
Is the belief actually true? Is there an alternative explanation?
What are the implications of your belief, if it were true? How probable are these implications, and are they really that bad?
Finally, ask yourself: Is what I’m thinking useful to me?
If a thought isn’t useful, can you simply let it go and focus instead on how to change the situation next time around?
Using this ABC technique you’re more likely to turn into optimistic toward your life.
Optimism is healthier than pessimism and optimists tend to be happier, more successful in life. Optimism and Pessimism are learned responses to challenging negative situations, which means that by using the ABC technique, it’s entirely possible for you to become more optimistic.
ABC technique – developed by the psychologist Albert Ellis.
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